{"product_id":"a-perfectionists-guide-to-not-being-perfect-9781433837036","title":"A Perfectionist's Guide to Not Being Perfect","description":"It's hard for teens to be happy when they've created a very narrow window of what defines success. The goal of this helpful book is to encourage teens to maintain their desire to achieve without striving to always be perfect and to appreciate and love who they are just as they are, not for what they do or accomplish. Finding a balance between work and play is key. Challenging perfectionism is about the pursuit of happiness. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e When teens can recognize that perfectionism is a disadvantage, they can become motivated to do something about it. For many, it may just be shifting the perfectionism a bit to land in a more positive place. It might be about deciding when and where to be slightly perfectionistic, when and where they can let go of high standards and all-or-nothing thinking, and when it's okay to simply do a \"good enough\" job on something. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Topics covered include: \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e What is Perfectionism \u0026amp; Why Change it? \u003cbr\u003e Treating Perfectionism with Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT): \u003cbr\u003e Mastering Self-Care: Relaxation \u0026amp; Meditation \u003cbr\u003e Challenging Perfectionistic Thinking: The Path to Freedom Part 1 \u003cbr\u003e Decision-Making, Flexibility, \u0026amp; Comfort Zones \u003cbr\u003e Challenging Perfectionistic Behavior: The Path to Freedom, Part 2 \u003cbr\u003e Picture Perfect: Social Media \u0026amp; Body Image \u003cbr\u003e Making Mistakes, Failing \u0026amp; Life Lessons \u003cbr\u003e Stress Management \u0026amp; Balanced Living \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e The book also includes resources, additional reading for teens, additional reading for Parents, apps, references, and a comprehensive index \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Symptoms of Perfectionism: \u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRefusal to accept anything less than perfect\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHolding yourself to impossible-to-meet high standards\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBelieving that your worth is measured by your achievements or grades\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing hyper-focused on grades\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNeeding to get straight-As or be the best at your sport\/chosen activity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpending excessive amounts of time on projects or schoolwork because you have to make it perfect\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eChecking work over and over again\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNeeding extensions to hand in assignments or papers\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing preoccupied with rules and lists\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing rigid and inflexible (for example, if plans change)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDifficulty asking for help\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDifficulty delegating tasks to others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDifficulty making decisions\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eProcrastination\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing unable to handle making a mistake\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling guilty for making a mistake or perceived failures\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing self-critical and harsh with yourself if your performance falls short of perfect\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eConstantly comparing yourself to others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOnly being happy when you win or come in first\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing unable to accept feedback or constructive criticism\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSpending hours on your appearance\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRefusing to leave the house unless you look your best\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHyper-focusing on parts of your body that you are not happy with\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHaving negative body-image because your body is not perfect like a male or female model's body\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRestricted eating (either due to wanting to stay within a certain calorie range or only eating 100% clean foods)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWaking up very early at the same time every day to exercise for 2 hours\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExpecting others to do things to your standards\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRegularly feeling disappointed in others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExpecting that others won't make mistakes\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHoldings others to high\/unattainable standards (for example, that others should do things in the way you would)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing unwilling to delegate tasks to others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeing critical of others\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNot being happy for others when they do well\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTrouble sharing your thoughts or feelings\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDifficulty relaxing and letting go\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInability to be spontaneous\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cbr\u003e Impact of Perfectionism: \u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStress\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLow self-esteem\/ self-worth\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLow self-confidence\/ not believing in yourself\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSelf-doubt\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSelf-criticism\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSelf-deprecation\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling lots of pressure\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling like a failure\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling guilt\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFeeling a sense of shame\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInability to celebrate your achievements\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNegative impact on relationships with parents, teachers, friends\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOthers perceiving you as judgmental or \"hard\" on them\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTrouble being close to others because you are overly judgmental\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLimited problem-solving skills resulting from inflexible thinking\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLimited creativity (often resulting from appealing to someone else's ideals)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMissing out on enjoyable, fun experiences\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMissing out on being social\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePhysical problems such as GI issues and headaches\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eExhaustion or fatigue\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAnxiety\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDepression\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBody image disturbance\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eEating disorders\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Bonnie Zucker\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Magination Press\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 02\/22\/2022\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 248\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Hardcover\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781433837036\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eBonnie Zucker, PsyD, \u003c\/b\u003e is a licensed psychologist in private practice. She received her undergraduate degree from George Washington University, her master's degree from the University of Baltimore, and her doctoral degree from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology in Chicago. Dr. Zucker specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders and is the author of \u003ci\u003eSomething Very Sad Happened: A Toddler's Guide to Understanding Death\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eAnxiety-Free Kids, \u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003eTake Control of OCD\u003c\/i\u003e, and co-author of \u003ci\u003eResilience Builder Program for Children \u0026amp; Adolescents\u003c\/i\u003e and two relaxation CDs. She lives in Bethesda, Maryland. 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