You Don't Have to Change to Change Everything: Six Ways to Shift Your Vantage Point, Stop Striving for Happy, and Find True Well-Being

A unique approach to healing that emphasizes changing our perspectives instead of changing ourselves. Instead of struggling to change our inner experiences, we transform the container in which they are held. From here, wholeness and healing are possible; this is where actual change lives.

2024 Finalist, International Book Awards, Health: Psychology/Mental Health Category and Self Help: General Category

2025 Nautilus Silver Award, Psychology/Mental & Emotional Well-Being

One of the most significant sources of suffering comes from our human tendency to avoid difficult emotions. We are not taught how to face these unpleasant, often daily inner experiences (mind-body energies) and so we tend to push them away, ignore them, or become unwittingly overwhelmed by them. Yet how we meet and greet these difficult emotions has everything to do with our well-being, resilience, and ability to connect with ourselves and others.Instinctually, we fight against our uncomfortable emotions; in doing so, we reinforce messages of "not good enough" or "something is wrong with me that I am feeling this way."

In You Don't Have to Change to Change Everything, readers learn that instead of forcing themselves to feel "happy" and pushing away what is unpleasant, or instead of getting hooked by intense emotions, another path can lead to more profound well-being. Rather than trying to change one's inner experiences, this book offers six ways to shift one's vantage point when difficult emotions arise. Being aware from each of these six vantage points allows readers to cultivate inner stability, willingness to turn toward rather than away from themselves, greater perspective, internal strengths and inner resources, self-compassion, connection with the "Whole Self" versus identification with "hole self," and interconnection with the world around them.

Author: Beth Kurland
Publisher: Health Communications
Published: 03/26/2024
Pages: 336
Binding Type: Paperback
Weight: 1.00lbs
Size: 9.00h x 5.90w x 0.90d
ISBN: 9780757325021

Review Citation(s):
Library Journal 04/01/2024 pg. 41

About the Author
Dr. Beth Kurland, PhD, is a clinical psychologist practicing in the field for nearly 30 years, an author, and a public and TEDx speaker. In addition, Beth is a mind-body wellness coach and creator of the online program The Well-Being Toolkit Program. She is the author of three award-winning books: Dancing on the Tightrope: Transcending the Habits of Your Mind and Awakening to Your Fullest Life (Wellbridge Books, 2018, Finalist by Next Generation Indie Book Awards in the Best Motivational Book category);The Transformative Power of Ten Minutes: An Eight Week Guide to Reducing Stress and Cultivating Well Being (Wellbridge Books, 2017, Finalist in the Next Generation Indie Book Awards in the Health and Wellness category); and Gifts of the Rain Puddle: Poems, Meditations and Reflections for the Mindful Soul (Wellbridge Books, 2017, Winner of the Next Generation Indie Book Awards in the Gift/Novelty book category).Beth is passionate about teaching mind-body practices to help people discover their inner toolkit and realize they don't need to fix or change themselves to awaken the power of inner transformation. You can learn more at BethKurland.com.